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I see a lot of obese women posting pictures of their bodies, and getting endless praise for being "brave" "confident" and "a REAL woman".

I am a real woman, too. But when I post pictures of my skinny body, I get insulted and harassed.

I am a model. I go to photo shoots and get made-up, lit-up, and photo-shopped. Then I go home, and I have a real life, and real problems, and real feelings.

I love my body, but I do not promote my emaciated look as a beauty ideal. Yet, I get slammed continuously for glorifying an unhealthy standard. Meanwhile, hundreds of thousands of people die of obesity each year, but we continue to promote obesity as "normal" "beautiful" and "real".

I don't really care what you're into or whether or not I embody it. There's no reason to be so disrespectful to others about body image, ever. Everyone should love their body, and everyone should strive for optimum health.

That is all.

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Canarycloud407 Featured By Owner Dec 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I am really skinny as well. Ever since I was 8 years old I noticed that I wasn't as heavy as other girls. They would pick me up and say I was "light as a feather." 5th grade was when the insults started. I lost many friends because they were "jealous" that I was skinny. I was called anorexic and a twig and stupid crap like that. It got worse as I got older, and, even now, I still get bullied about my size. Since 7th grade I struggled to gain weight and was never over 100 pounds. To this day, the heaviest I have ever been is 103.01 pounds. People give me shit about how I'm never going to have to worry about my weight because I'm so skinny, or that I can eat whatever and not gain a pound.
The insults caused me to fall to peer pressure and I stared to eat a LOT which only resulted in me getting sick all the time. I stopped and began to embrace my body type. I'm naturally skinny. I have a high metabolism. I will get bullied. I will get hurt by other people's words. But you know what? That's okay. I do what's best for me. I'm not here to please the world. Keep shrugging off the insults - you are beautiful and perfect just the way you are.
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Pyrosynthesist Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
I cannot tell you how many times, I have been asked if I have an eating disorder.
It's not funny. It's not polite. It's not something that I am 'glad' to have. It's frustrating. It's unhealthy. It's... frankly not something that I want anyone to have.

I have a naturally high metabolism. I have never had an eating disorder in my life (On the contrary, I love food and eat as much as I can). I stand at 5'11"(ish) and yet up until I was 22 years old, I struggled to get over 55KG. I have constantly heard 'You're blessed" "I wish I looked liked that", "You can eat whatever and never get fat?!", "I hate you", "You don't have to worry about what you look like... like ever".


It's not nice, and it's part of the reason why I reclused in to my home, and don't like going out in public. It's terrible to want to go clothes shopping at the department store, and having to head to the childs section because adult clothes are too big for me. Or having to go to the males section of jeans just to find a pair that are long enough and fit >_<

We're all real. We all have feelings, and we're all human. *shrugs*
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Background-chan Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I have a petite figure so I get called anorexic all the time, even though I do nothing to keep in shape.. I love that I can eat anything I want and not gain weight, but I hate it how people don't understand the fact that I'm skinny doesn't mean I starve myself for my body... And as long as you hopefully haven't done any self-inflicted harm to yourself to be like this, then I support you all the way to hell and back!
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Background-chan Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
And girl, you are hella pretty and I love your shoots, so try not to late the haters bring you down! Fool Emoji-14 (Crazy Dance) [V1] 
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HealerKira Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
It doesn't matter to me whether anyone is skinny or large; if they are content with how they are is the only thing that matters. 
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TimBakerFX Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2013  Professional General Artist
Real woman have cures...  it's insulting isn't it?   just trading one set of "rules" of what a woman can look like for another.   I say, real women, are women!   
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subsonic76 Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2013
i think it's just mean, this "real women have curves"-thingy. would be the same if a guy with a small dick would be told "real men have big dicks". it's nature, and it's insulting. i'm living in bavaria, a southern state in germany, and we're well-known for fatty food and beer. here i often hear "ein mann ohne bauch ist ein krüppel", which means "a man without a big tummy is a cripple"... god bless obesity^^
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KimIsMissing Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well, I saw a comment on one of your pics and you said "I have an eating disorder that makes my life hell." I've been there before :/ Anorexia nervosa sucks. I have anorexia nervosa purge type (yea a real diagnosis). My heart started to fail. I do not know where you're from, but, in America, we do promote thin bodies, but not bone thin.   I see obesity the same as anorexia.... a loss of control... though anorexics have the false sense of control. Anorexia has the highest death rate of all mental illnesses, because it causes atrophy of the heart. I think binge eating disorder is worse, because people do not see it as a mental illness when for many of them, it is, and then they're obese, and well, where I'm from they get treated worse. I think healthy, not way over weight and not way underweight is perfect. We're all real women with feelings... but you know, when you have an eating disorder of any kind, it's scary, it's lonely, it's our hell. I'm a healthy weight now, and I'll keep it that way from now on and forever.
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Exillior Featured By Owner Oct 24, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I've often wondered that too. And also the shops that sell large sizes and advertise them as "the love sizes". So what are smaller women - the hate sizes?? :hmm:
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subsonic76 Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2013
with "love size" they maybe mean "more to love size" and it's just an anti-depressant for obese people :D
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Exillior Featured By Owner Dec 16, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Putting a group of people down to make another group feel better is even wronger.
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jumparoundjon Featured By Owner Oct 16, 2013   Photographer
Well said.  Stay strong and try to ignore the ignorance of the haters.  :nod:
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Mizu1 Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2013  Professional Photographer
I say screw what everybody else thinks. Go with what you like, who you are, and what works for you. If you don't what you see or how you feel do what you can to change it. Remember, the only person you have to answer to is yourself.
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SinisterDragon666 Featured By Owner Oct 15, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
I always find it VERY annoying that people nowdays find it "Trendy" to attack people THEY see as "TOO thin", and they ignore the obvious health issues of being obese... 
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MorrisCat Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2013
You are indeed a real woman. And from your bio a really healthy one at that.  There are many healthy body types and shapes for both women and men - and those within their healthy range should be encouraged by that and not become obsessive over a single standard of beauty.  

Now, while I agree it is good for people to keep a healthy body image of themselves here is some food for thought, if you will pardon the term - We have become a culture of overweight over-eaters.  And we deny the problem is even happening.  
Today, the average American woman has a waist size of 34 inches - That is 2 to 3 inches more than MINE, a near 50 year old male system administrator.   Denying that being that over weight is a problem is becoming systemic and incredibly foolish in the face of mounting evidence of what it does to the body.  

Let's take, for instance, one of the biggest myths about the new average size of women (size 16 or XL) in America; that myth is Marilyn Monroe was the same size, a size 12-16.   That number range may have been true in the 1950s before the termination of standardized sizing in the 1980s - roughly size 12-16 in the 1950s is now about half that number or a little less, something like 8, 6 and even as low as a 4 in today's sizing.  We don't need to guess though, a quick google search and we know exactly how "big" Marilyn was - Her measurements were 5 ft. 5 1/2 inches tall; 35 inch bust; 22 inch waist (approximately 2-3 inches less than the average American woman in the 1950s and 12 inches less than average today); and 35 inch hips, with a bra size of 36D.  The Hollywood studios listed her weight to be between 115-120 lbs.   

Yet somehow women cling to that myth as if to say they are just now catching up to that old ideal.  Men are no better, most simply don't care what they are doing to their bodies.  That is the tragedy that is now playing out - Americans are blinding themselves to their own self-destruction.   
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nikongriffin Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2013  Professional Photographer
The people who say obese women are beautiful or real are just trying to fool themselves. I saw a photo on dA of a woman who literally looked like the Michelin Man. Fortunately I had already eaten, as I assume she had, too, yet people were praising her although some just came straight out and called her disgusting. Your body is dynamic. Your face is magnificently structured. Given a choice I'd rather shoot you than anyone on dA because in my eyes you are the perfect model.
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JennaKellen Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2013  Professional
This is exactly what this article is NOT about
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3Dcaptor Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2013
It's truly unfortunate how being 'politically correct' tends to promote unhealthy living in order not to offend a certain demographic.  You just keep being who you are.  To quote a certain Admiral Farragut..."Damn the torpedoes!"  ;)

For the record, I happen to find you quite appealing.
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marcusB44 Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2013
I also love you body. I think you are beautiful, talented and brave. It is not easy to put yourself out there for praise and or criticism. Do not listen to the others. Stay strong and keep creating the beauty for all of us to enjoy. Rod
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bribesdemoi Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
Neither obesity nor anorexia is healthy, and that we all know. Now, the thing is that the media and fashion world have brought forward models than were skinnier than usual. This probably triggered this wave of acceptance (and even praise) of bodies above average.

Now, I personally enjoy, beyond classical sculptural models, slightly (and I emphasize on slightly) overweight female models because I think that their shapes allows for interesting games with lighting etc. I am not so much attracted by underweight models, but I don't blame them for being what they are.

What I loved with you is that your pictures conveyed lots of intensity, tension, almost violence. That might have been exacerbated by your silhouette maybe, as seeing ribs brings you closer to starvation and death imaginarium.

Maybe that is point. Skinny models can send back an impression of death. Maybe that is why you attract lots of negative comments. Again, if I had been touched by your body, it is because it was conveying amazing emotions. I did not even question once your sanity. I just took you as an amazing model.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Stay who you are.

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JennaKellen Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional
"I don't really care what you're into or whether or not I embody it. There's no reason to be so disrespectful to others about body image, ever."
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bribesdemoi Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
And don't get me wrong. I 100% agree that people should be respectful with others, esp. with models because their work is particularly vulnerable by nature.
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bribesdemoi Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
Was I disrespectful? I am sorry if I sounded so. I was trying to understand why people can be shocked or negative about you. This I cannot do without writing words that are not necessarily pleasant but I thought I had been respectful by dissociating primary emotions and final reflexion. Sorry if I hurt you because, as I said, you are one of the most intense models I have seen here on DA.
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almosthuman75 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
Very well said ! :-)
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phydeau Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
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crescentsi Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional Digital Artist

I think that their concept of "real" is flawed.  I blame advertisers for this as they see it as a popular marketing tool to continue to exploit women by encouraging them to buy things they don't need.  But, hey!  That's Capitalism.....

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Hellstroem Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
There are some sad, very heavy people out there, who rather than take personal responsibility for their morbid obesity, make it a political(ly correct) statement of "thin privilege".
That way they can lash out others without repercussions, because they're the victims you see. Poor innocent victims of a cruel world and its unnatural aesthetics.
It's not that they live a sedentary lifestyle and eat gratuitously large meals with heaving helpings of fatty desserts and a lot of deliciously oily snacks, too lazy to exercise and soon, too fat to move.

You have the audacity to remind them of this, because you're an evil representative of the dread, cruel, unfair "thin privilege".

Thin privilege is anyone who's not overweight and therefore fit into standard sized furniture, doors, cars, houses, clothing etc.
Thankfully this madness is limited to the US, if anyone had the gall to spout this "fat is beautiful" crap in my end of the world, they'd be effin' lynched.

Now, when people give you a hard time for looking the way you look, just remember that you'll live longer, you won't need an electric scooter to get around, you don't get winded from walking a mere 100 feet, you can still see your toes,
you can buy your clothing off the rack, you can put on socks without straining and gasping for air, you can get from the ground floor and up to the second without needing oxygen and you'll never have to suffer the dropsy.

So every time you catch a bit of flack, know it comes from someone overweight or someone stupidly PC.
More importantly, don't let it get to you.
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GriffinsJoy Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional Traditional Artist
Well said! We all have our taste. But Obesity is unhealthy. The end.
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Hellstroem Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2013
Thank you - and yes.
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KaykayTsutsu Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
Yeah, uh, wow. I really wish I could say I was surprised and apalled by that kind of shitty behavior from people, but there's always some moron out there who doesn't think, just talks out his ass about how we women should live our lives, and what we should or should not do with OUR bodies. I really wish they'd stop bothering you, but I don't see people realizing how wrong this is within my life time, sadly, and it's not going to happen if we give up on our efforts to promote feminism and the basic freaking social skills that they should have in regard to what is or is not okay to say to others. All we can do is keep going. One day in the future, maybe I'll have a daughter. And maybe she'll get to grow up in a world where she is treated fairly and equally, with the respect she is due as another human being, and not judged by her gender, ethnicity, beliefs, or body. That's why I keep going. Not just for me, but so that maybe, just maybe, future generations of little girls and grown women can not have to deal with this crap.

To the people who said all the crap mentioned in this journal... There's a really easy way to tell if someone is a "real woman" or not.

Is the person in question a woman?
If you answered yes, SHE IS A REAL WOMAN. THERE IS LITERALLY NO WAY TO BE A "REAL" WOMAN THAT IS MORE CLEARLY DEFINED THAN SIMPLY BEING A WOMAN. Take your judgments and your hypocrisy and your intolerable sense of entitlement and your unwelcome comments about others' bodies and choke on them.

There are many types of women in the world, and many women have various body shapes, types, appearances, and more.

All of them are real women. You are not in any position to judge otherwise. Period.

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AlexandraB24 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional General Artist
I agree with you. Obesity is as a disease. 
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Houndourka Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
because people are huge hypocrites
tbh the most important is that you feel good in your own body
because there will be always people who wont like skinny/normal/fat body
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Jonarts Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
the haters screamings have always been louder than the lovers praises.
be assurd you're loved a thousand times more than enviously unliked.
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FabioKeiner Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
you are one of the bravest models in the world of this art & trade.
of course, you are a real woman (whatever this term may mean in different senses and cultures and times)
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the problem (especially in 'western world' (i.e. USA & europe) after alnmost one generation of fattening-hormonized meat & dairy food, 2/3 of the population are overweight, 'obese' - to say it: outright fat like stuffed pigs (all illnesses & maladies included) - so social standards  are perverted now:
what yesterday was 'normal', now is 'underweight', what today is regarded to be 'normal', yesterday what have denominated sick.
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you are - by posing nude - a living rebuke to all the all too many fat/overweight/obese people in the world and at dA.
don't listen to them: obesity makes stupid, that's proven by studies (and by experience at dA:))
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I'm very happy that are some/few people, may female or male, who try to stem the tide of fat monstrosities now overwhelming our society - living incarnations of greed & gluttony :))
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strider1972 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
Well said.
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Phoenixx99 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
You are fine as who you are.  Just be it.... The noise wont stop, but who you are must be what you concentrate on.
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AManicPandaBear Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Sometimes I believe we've entered a period in society where bullying is considered acceptable to too many people. In my own way, I still deal with the stigma and isolation from others as I live with having depression and Tourette's Syndrome. Maybe in this way, I can try to relate to the harassment and insults you receive. 

All I know is this, regardless of a woman's body, she is still a woman. You are indeed a real woman and in my eyes are very beautiful and sincere with what you are dealing with these days. If it helps, simply with your post you are someone I respect and admire. Thank you for sharing.
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Phoenixx99 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
bullying is very sadly a daily event.
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Svethlana Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013
I don't know why this is happening NOW, but people are getting more compassionate about others' weaknesses in a very unhealthy way. Some years ago I posted a comment here in DA in which there was a fat woman and I wrote "I don't like the model" and everybody started to criticize me (even the model replied)  but no one even asked me why I said I didn't like her, all of them just assumed it was because she was fat. And actually that was the reason, I didn't like her because she was REALLY FAT. I don't care how a person looks aesthetically, but I think if you're a model and you publish your work as a model you have to be ready to get positive and negative feedback. I didn't like her because she looked unhealthy, not because she looked ugly, and I don't like that "yeah, we agree you're beautiful despite your fatness. All of us could eventually be exposed to other people's judgement, so we better protect each other" attitude.

And it's not that I like my body, because I don't, but it doesn't mean that I'm going to make a trend out of my body just to get other people's acceptance. If I was a model and somebody says "hey, I don't like you as a model" I'd say "ok, that's fine, maybe I could improve this or that, thanks for your opinion", but I think it's not a reason to get angry. After all, not everybody has to like me, right?

And well, if you get some negative feedback there are 2 options according to me: you can take the critic and improve something and therefore progress in a positive way, or you can say "thank you, but I don't like your idea. I'll keep it this way".

Finally, if it's useful, here you have a quote from Brian Warner: "I create things for people knowing what I think that they need or they want. But i'm not controlled or catering to my audience in any way, because that then changes the purity of what you do. So there's a fine line between giving people what they want and letting them dictate what you create for their demands, and you become much more like a waiter than a chef."

PS: I do like your skinny body =D
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SarahFYoung Featured By Owner Oct 20, 2013  Student Photographer
Who are you to judge what is healthy and what isnt? Fat does not have to equal unhealthy.

Plus, you cannot go rambling on about how unhealthy the fat model looked and then not say the same about Jenna because she is the opposite. 

All bodies should be appreciated if they are healthy. Fat or thin. End of.

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JennaKellen Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional
1."I don't really care what you're into or whether or not I embody it. There's no reason to be so disrespectful to others about body image, ever."

2. This is so not about me feeling butt-hurt over negative comments I get. I don't actually give a crap about that. This is about respect and humanity and body image and very general things that aren't about me.

3. I hope you learn to love the body you're stuck in!
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Svethlana Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
I wasn't talking about you either. I was thinking in the best way to face critics without being an asshole, because that's what people consider when talking about others' artworks and there's where big mistakes appear. 
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EMPTINESS2013 Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013
Some people will like or love you for being thin, some will like or love you for being obese, and others will like or love you for being somewhere in between. However if one loves themselves regardless of body type then the wants or wishes of others are irrelevant. 

One of my favourite quotes says it best....
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
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kannagara Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013
oh, you know, a lot of fat people just want to feel better about themselves, so they do things like this.
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radaVid Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013  Student Artist
you are as real as they come JennaKellen.
just keep being real and the love will keep coming.

:peace::meditate::heart:
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NicoleNudes Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013  Professional Artist
Totally with you on this. 

I get the comment of, "Omg it's so nice to see a real woman!"

And honestly, while I know it's a compliment, it's annoying. 
EVERY woman is a REAL woman. We just come in different shapes and sizes - and there's no need to hate on one size because you prefer a different one. 
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freya50 Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013
When you pose nude our crass society will express itself in rude ways.  Know that you are beautiful and toughen your skin a little because a lot of us appreciate you.
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JennaKellen Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013  Professional
Thanks, but I don't think my skin needs any toughening. This isn't really about me personally.
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freya50 Featured By Owner Oct 12, 2013
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SAMIGUY101 Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013  Professional Photographer
You are my kind of beauty and I love the way you look. I don't know where you live, but I am in Ohio and if I could I would photograph you from now until forever   . . . . .
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